March 19, 2009


I got to meet one of the Kimchi Mamas yesterday, Mary. She lives in the East Bay and had to take a class at Stanford. After coming up to Menlo from campus, we only had time for a quick lunch, but it was fun to meet her in person. I also enjoyed going for a walk without the dog tugging at me. After lunch I visited the bookstore in town, then, to my chagrin, was almost too tired to walk home. I'm ready to be better already!

OTRmama left on Monday. Tuesday I got really sad and overwhelmed. It took me a bit of journaling to figure out what was going on. Basically, with her here, I didn't have to ask for anything. She was amazing at anticipating needs, even finding flowers while walking the dogs and bringing them back to put in vases around the apartment. Jrex is fairly depressed about this paper he's working on. He's got 'one more' experiment now before they can try to publish it. This thing has taken 5 years of his life so far and he doesn't even care about it. Usually when he's depressed, I do what I need to to take care of myself and try to make home life as light as possible for him. Unfortunately, it's harder to suck it up at the moment!

We talked about it over dinner that night. A lot of it was missing having a Mom. I'd forgotten what it felt like to be cared in the way a good Mom can. I felt so humbled and blessed to have someone willing to do that for me. Jrex has been great, of course, it's not his fault he's not a Mom! We're working out how to care for each other when we both have low emotional/physical reserves.

I sent an email yesterday to work telling them I'll be able to ease into working from home starting on Monday. Sigh. I haven't missed work AT ALL.

And that's all the news from Lake Couch-be-on, where the Gilmore Girls are in Season 3 and the pace of dialogue over dinner has picked up accordingly.


mary said...

It was so fun to meet you yesterday! I wish I had 2 hours for lunch. The sandwiches and drink were so good!!!

I pray for Jrex's experiments to succeed so that he can publish the paper. 5 years for one paper does seem like a lot. =)

Take it easy and enjoy the time you have off!

jooliyah said...

good to hear recovery is going well.

and glad you had a great blog friend meet up this week too.

and i talk faster after i watch me some gilmore girls too.

Snickollet said...

So glad you're recovering well. I know what you mean about not missing work. When I was out for four weeks recovering from surgery a few years ago, I didn't think about it at all and easily could have stayed out for weeks and weeks more.

The is no one like a good Mama, is there? Sorry you had to say goodbye to OTRMama. I'm impressed that you and Jrex are working on how to care for each other. It's so important. All too often, I know that I expect people to know what to do for me and resent it when I have to tell them. That's not good! It seems like you and Jrex have really good communication.

Keep on feeling better each day.

Asianmommy said...

So nice that you had someone to take such good care of you while you were recovering. Hope things continue to improve.

otrmama said...

I was depressed yesterday, too. Maybe just tired from driving, but maybe I really enjoyed motherin' you. Definitely miss JRex's cooking! Thank you for all your sweet blog comments. And for the time together, too. Blue misses Gilmore Girls and your Muttola a lot!