I got to meet one of the Kimchi Mamas yesterday, Mary. She lives in the East Bay and had to take a class at Stanford. After coming up to Menlo from campus, we only had time for a quick lunch, but it was fun to meet her in person. I also enjoyed going for a walk without the dog tugging at me. After lunch I visited the bookstore in town, then, to my chagrin, was almost too tired to walk home. I'm ready to be better already!
OTRmama left on Monday. Tuesday I got really sad and overwhelmed. It took me a bit of journaling to figure out what was going on. Basically, with her here, I didn't have to ask for anything. She was amazing at anticipating needs, even finding flowers while walking the dogs and bringing them back to put in vases around the apartment. Jrex is fairly depressed about this paper he's working on. He's got 'one more' experiment now before they can try to publish it. This thing has taken 5 years of his life so far and he doesn't even care about it. Usually when he's depressed, I do what I need to to take care of myself and try to make home life as light as possible for him. Unfortunately, it's harder to suck it up at the moment!
We talked about it over dinner that night. A lot of it was missing having a Mom. I'd forgotten what it felt like to be cared in the way a good Mom can. I felt so humbled and blessed to have someone willing to do that for me. Jrex has been great, of course, it's not his fault he's not a Mom! We're working out how to care for each other when we both have low emotional/physical reserves.
I sent an email yesterday to work telling them I'll be able to ease into working from home starting on Monday. Sigh. I haven't missed work AT ALL.
And that's all the news from Lake Couch-be-on, where the Gilmore Girls are in Season 3 and the pace of dialogue over dinner has picked up accordingly.