March 4, 2013

Yikes! Where did I go?

I just scrolled through my last few posts and realized there's nothing personal in them. Sorry about that! Here are the latest tid-bits.

I'm getting my THIRD round of hernia surgery on Friday. Yes, the sucker came back again. I'm going to a different surgeon (cause, "fool me twice, shame on me"). The new guy's going to go in with a camera first and make sure all systems are normal.

Mom K is arriving at 10 PM the night before the surgery. We'll have Friday morning for Brex to get used to her, then they'll drop me off for surgery, take Brex to daycare and come back to sit in the hospital until I come out. Maybe we'll see if Mom wants to go to daycare with Brex instead? I won't be able to pick him up for two weeks and I'm a little worried he will be very testy about a Mom substitute when he hasn't had a chance to adjust to her first.

In preparation for not being able to pick him up, I bought him a toddler bed off of Craigslist. This way, neither Mom K with her severe osteoporosis or me with my sutured stomach will have to pick him up to put him in a crib. Brex is DELIGHTED to be able to tumble into and out of his OWN bed. I put the step stool next to the bed and he's quite adept at using it as a launching pad. I can change his diaper on the floor. He's happy to climb and descend the steps under his own steam. Mom will be here for a week, Jrex will have to do drop off and pick up since I can't drive. We'll make it work. It's just, sigh... I'm SO over this whole process.

Sunday we invited another couple over for brunch. They have many eerie similarities to us: he's Asian (Chinese), she's Caucasian. They moved here when she was 7 months pregnant. She's in the arts (Museum Registrar), he's one of Jrex's peers at work (another Physician/Scientist). They have a perfect child. He does most of the cooking (says it's an extension of the experimentation he does in lab). We had a great time despite the fact that I'm becoming the Crazy Lady who works from home and talks WAY too much any time there's a breathing human in the same room. Over share with the poor cashier at the grocery store? Check. Accost my poor neighbors? Yup. Interrupt our gentle, quiet guest? Sigh.

Still working on the office decor project. We found out Friday that the Exec (who is over the two people we've been working with) vetoed the overall direction we were heading in. Not only do we have to revamp, we have to have a new deck ready to show our general manager on Thursday to then send to the Exec on Friday. The four of us went off to look for inspiration last Friday and did Show and Tell today. There were common elements we'd all found, so we're using those as the main motifs moving forward. I started the phone call by announcing that I'd jumped into Eeyore's camp and was totally demoralized. By the end, it felt like we were back on the same team and I felt excited again.

Jrex and I continue to do our weekly 'in home' date nights. We migrated away from take out and Jrex did an amazing meal for our most recent one. I realized that as much as I LOVE his food, part of what makes it feel like a 'date' is not having to spend the evening cleaning, cooking and cleaning. So we'll go back to the take out concept. We just need to find places open on a Monday night...

In the next month it looks like we'll be having a constant flow of overnight guests as well as out of town friends stopping by for dinner or brunch. It's surprising how many of our far flung friends swing through Dallas to visit family or for work. Having a house that can accommodate the influx has restored my enjoyment of hospitality.

So c'mon down, y'all!


Rachel said...

Wow, three surgeries. That's terrible. I look forward to reading all the Mom K stories.

I'm glad you were able to connect with another couple. Making "family friends" can be hard sometimes.

Hope the surgery goes well and you recover quickly.

Inkling said...

I'll be praying for you as you go through this next adventure, and that it will be a good one with a swift and totally permanent recovery.

And the stuff about oversharing? Thanks so much for keeping it real. Being with a four year old alone most of the time and not having any local friends I see on a regular basis leads me to have this plethora of words that just spill out the moment I'm in an adult conversation. My quiet husban(d who should really get a job as a professional listener since he's so gifted at that) just cringes. Well, he used to tap me on the leg or tell me afterward that I talked to much, but he discovered his highly sensitive wife doesn't handle those responses all that well. It is so helpful to know that it's not just me, and that it really is a natural response to our season of life.

NGS said...

If I had to have two surgeries, let alone three, I would be shouting to the rooftops about the UNFAIRNESS and INJUSTICE of it all. Apparently you are a better person than I am! I wish a speedy recovery for you (and, obviously, that that is the LAST of it)!!

Mizasiwa said...

Hope ur surgeries go well!! Warm SA wishes!!