tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17698318.post6178370340233008651..comments2023-10-21T07:52:03.819-07:00Comments on Sojournering: ChoicesOTRgirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17698318.post-48981715593006165862007-02-09T09:16:00.000-08:002007-02-09T09:16:00.000-08:00I agree on the choice, with my oldest, Emily, 8 go...I agree on the choice, with my oldest, Emily, 8 going on 22 right about now, we've used choice a lot, recently she'll respond, "well, I don't like either of those choices though, I need one that I like", the first time she said this I was dumbfounded, caught flat-footed, nothing to say. Now I just repeat the prior 2 choices like a broken record, and sometimes if feels like the 2 choices are my will or Hell, but sometimes, I don't have much option on that, being a mom is tough, but I know she needs a mom, not a friend. Follow through can be hard to, when they were younger it was easier b/c a choice could be a little unrealistic yet believeable, now the options really have to make sense, and very doable, else I've failed before I start.<BR/><BR/>You always get me thinking, hope you're well!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17698318.post-19784469692771528052007-02-09T06:25:00.000-08:002007-02-09T06:25:00.000-08:00You were a hairdresser!? I had no idea!While there...You were a hairdresser!? I had no idea!<BR/><BR/>While there are very difficult things about the baby stage with my kids, I am leery of the whole discipline thing that comes along when the are walking and talking. I know I will have a lot of lessons to learn. Thanks for this insight.Snickollethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17698318.post-17610789517762639822007-02-08T19:08:00.000-08:002007-02-08T19:08:00.000-08:00Boy, can I relate! The word viable is key here. ...Boy, can I relate! The word viable is key here. <BR/><BR/>I once was with a mom who was trying to get her very rebellious and resistant teenage daughter to leave a restaurant (where she was hanging out with a friend). After nearly 1/2 an hour of negotiation, it came down to, "You'll either come out to the car in 5 minutes or I'm calling the police." Well, 5 minutes later there was no daughter in sight and the mom asked me what to do. I told her I thought she'd better call the police. Well, that didn't happen and that probably gives you some idea of why we were being manipulated by a teenager. I wish more parents would realize that if they give an ultimatum (not really the same as choices, is it?), they'd better follow through. <BR/><BR/>In less extreme situations, it really is amazing how well kids respond to choices. When they don't want to do what you're asking them to, giving them a less desirable option makes what you're asking seem that much more appealing!Belovedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01249852526655365590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17698318.post-70908448836430657162007-02-08T18:29:00.000-08:002007-02-08T18:29:00.000-08:00Oh I live that!Oh I live that!Everblesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13110531013817825849noreply@blogger.com